In the sex driven society that we live in today, is it really acceptable to fool around with who you want? The timeless point in a sexist argument is that when men are promiscuous they are lads, and that when women are promiscuous they are sluts. Regardless of the point, we are all judged on our sexual escapades, and perplexed as to why. Apart from some select species of mammals, in the animal kingdom there is no judgment. If you want to rub your ass on a tree it’s okay, if you want to sleep with every member of your species it’s okay. Why is it different for humans? Why have the rules changed?
Some women, and men, believe in a natural and drug-free birth because that’s how nature intended it, but nature also intended that we don’t drive cars or have television, and I don’t see them complaining about that. It is through the evolution of the physical and emotional aspects of our species that we have developed this judgmental tone, but why? How can you selectively choose which ‘natural’ and ‘unevolved’ aspects of life you want?
Why does someone spreading their legs more often than another suddenly define them as a person? If anything, I would say they have good oral communication skills. Sex is a natural and wonderful part of life. Yes, it’s main purpose is for producing children, but a cars main purpose is to drive you to a destination, not for McDonalds meet ups or skidding around corners. Drugs are meant to be used to relieve physical pain, yet they’re used vicariously for pleasure. We release pheromones from our skin to attract others, and those lingering tension filled stares don’t entice the thought of I want to have your children, they provoke the want to do the process safely.
Sex has been such an important aspect of our lives, and it was once considered a science within the Indian culture, need I mention the Karma Sutra? It is natural to be curious, it has been documented extensively in text dating back to the first novel ever written. There are Greek statues, historic books, Hollywood blockbuster movies that talk about the erotic lifestyle, and yet people are still fearful of it.
The counter argument is that sex is an intimate act, you are completely exposing yourself to someone, and that isn’t something that should be taken lightly, all of which I completely agree with. However, what if you have connected to many people in your life? Many people that have made you want to share that incredibly intimate moment with. Are you still a slut? Are you still throwing your self-respect away? I think that being afraid to live your life, being afraid of being judged by others is throwing your self-respect away. Why does someone else’s thoughts on the most natural and primitive part of your life matter? I can guarantee that when they are on their death bed they won’t be thinking I’m so glad she didn’t have too much sex. However, you will be on your deathbed wondering why you starved yourself of such a wonderful experience.
I’m not saying to go out and sleep with the next person that you meet, but what I am saying is what’s wrong with it? Why does one person’s personal decision matter so much to everyone? When that bedroom, bathroom, or taxi door closes, society should keep their heads and their opinions to themselves. If that’s too difficult, I suggest that you buy some earplugs.